• Stay calm and neutral when talking to your child.
  • Pay close attention to your words and actions. Show interest in what your child says and do not react with shock, horror or indifference.
  • Don’t offer names of possible offenders or possible acts of abuse.
  • Listen to the information, but don’t ask for all the details.
  • Don’t videotape or audiotape your conversation with your child.


  • Allow your child to tell in his or her own way and in his or her own time.
  • Let your child know that you believe what he or she is telling you.
  • Tell your child that it is not his or her fault and that he or she is not in trouble.